My Jizo Therapy is wading into the waters of what is popularly known as tapping. Tapping, aka EFT – Emotional Freedom Techniques, can be found on countless websites, in dozens of YouTube videos, and at pain clinics. The very basic idea is that we have acupressure points in our bodies that, when tapped, move energy [...]
So, Chibi has a stomachache. (Note to new readers: Chibi means “little one” in Japanese. For this author it includes all children and inner kids, as well.) Chibi usually feels great on the weekends, but by Sunday night or maybe Monday or Tuesday, Chibi gets a stomachache. Or a headache. Or a backache. Let’s assume [...]
A dear friend asked me about social anxiety today and as I wrote back, I thanked her for giving me my next blog: Social anxiety is so sad. I have had it, too, at times. I remember a time when I felt I literally had grown three dress sizes in an hour. I felt so [...]
For me, the wisdom to know what is and what is not acceptable has been one of my greatest challenges. I cannot force solutions. I can speak up for myself. I can have boundaries. There IS unacceptable behavior. The big picture is remembering that when I sit back and don’t force things, when I wait [...]
Meet Jason. I am embarrassed to admit I hate him. His name is not really Jason. That would not be kind. Hating him is bad enough. Jason somehow finds me in yoga class and throws his mat down too close to mine. Not just once, but for four weekends in a row. The first week, [...]
These steps are courtesy of K.W. Thomas’ work, Introduction to conflict management, which I am cutting and pasting rather than stealing. It was tempting, as they are nicely said. As I have written before, it’s hard to do collaborative conflict resolution. It’s hard to risk being wrong, being shown that you have made a mistake. From [...]
I learned another thing the hard way (is there really any other way?). When a broken bone is mending, there are times when it hurts, suddenly and badly, as part of the healing process. I was struck by the metaphor of how we cannot mend unless we face the painful things in our lives. This [...]
Take a breath. Another one. Another one. Take a moment to notice on the calendar what day you are in. Smile as you exhale and realize: it’s not Christmas. It’s not Hanukah. Not Kwanzaa. Not New Year’s. It’s today, some time in autumn, likely, when you are reading this. Now, look at the week of [...]
I used to believe that whatever I believed was true. I was very small when I first started thinking this way. “I think it, therefore it is.” This gave life meaning, my meaning, which was the best kind. Then, somewhere along the line, I slowly began to grow up and learn about presumptions, assumptions [...]
