There is an underbelly to our most intimate relationships: the dark side of love. When people announce they are getting married, we might give our condolences along with our congratulations to offer a more holistic picture of the institution. Until then, let’s work out some of the awful kinks. […]
This could be a book. But right now I don’t have time to write it, and you might not have time to read it, so I’ll just send out postcards, aka blog posts, for now. I’ve been seeing families, couples and individuals for almost 25 years now, and I am sure of a few things, [...]
When it comes to communication and relationships, there is collaboration. And then there is everything else. The dictionary definition of collaboration is: 1) to work jointly with others or together especially in an intellectual endeavor; 2) to cooperate with or willingly assist an enemy of one’s country and especially an occupying force. So, one definition [...]
In compassionate meditation, I face my inner conflicts. In my relationships, those conflicts come to life when I feel threatened that I am at risk of losing something, being wrong, getting called out. Collaborative couples therapy is about teaching people to communicate by engaging without 1) attacking; 2) defending; or 3) withdrawing. This is not [...]
