When we have a thought, do we respond to it as though it were true? Do we believe that our feelings tell us what is true about the world? Two big buzzwords these days are Emotional Dysregulation. It assumes that normal is, say, in the range of middle C, within an octave either higher or [...]
…and walk away from the computer? Sure. I’m serious! But. Yeah, I know, BUT… one more “like” or one more Tweet or one more email or one more silk camisole from Ann Taylor or Nordstrom, or a Jizo for a loved one who is going through a rough time. […]
Hi all. As I therapist, I have heard my patients begin to worry about the holidays as early as, well, about the time the lights go up in Bloomingdale’s, which is now in September. Even if you are not a worrier, there is a level of Shoulds, of stress, of pressure that our society places [...]
I learn something new every day. Actually, maybe I learn too much every day and a lot of it is unnecessary. Isn’t that the etiology of TMI (Too Much Information)? Today, as I was propped up on my writerly pillows, breeze coming gently through the windows, with my computer on my lap, I thought about [...]
I just had to get off the yoga mat to write this down this morning. I had not, until this very moment, internalized lovingkindness while I was doing yoga, or aerobics or Pilates mat work. I am always pushing myself to do longer asanas, more reps, better form. […]
Who is Jizo? Or first, what is cognition? Or maybe the first question is, what is mindfulness? Most of us want to cut to the chase. We want results and we want them now. When we can’t get what we want, we get anxious, depressed, angry. And if we get there, we want to Stay [...]
First, I wonder if anyone is reading this. I just spent half an hour Googling “Does Anyone Read My Blog?” and wandering around inside WordPress trying to find the stats page. I couldn’t. Next week, I will talk with my tech goddess and she will teach me. I am sure someone has figured out how [...]
People are already pressuring themselves with “What do you want for Christmas?” Even people who don’t celebrate Christmas feel it. The decorations went up before Halloween. And can you hear those jingle bells revving up? It can feel more like the Indianapolis 500 than peace and love. This year, when someone asks you what you [...]
If you don’t get wound up for Thanksgiving you won’t have to unwind — much less go on a diet — a few days later. The day is coming though, and I am hearing the litany of obligations, pressures, worries and stress. Let’s take a moment to breathe. Breathe in and breathe out, noticing the [...]
I used to believe that whatever I believed was true. I was very small when I first started thinking this way. “I think it, therefore it is.” This gave life meaning, my meaning, which was the best kind. Then, somewhere along the line, I slowly began to grow up and learn about presumptions, assumptions [...]
