Binge Buddies? Fat Serenity? Fear of intimacy? Do married couples eat more? The research says yes, which is all the more reason to practice mindful eating, get to know Jizo and stay grounded because, for most of us, intimacy is not what we bargained for. […]
Most folks in the West don’t know who Jizo is; I don’t expect them to. They know even less about how the Buddhist bodhisattva relates to the health of our pelvic floors. Such things are never written about. But the relationship is much closer than even lovers of Jizo may realize. In Sanskrit, Jizo’s name, [...]
We all are a little broken. And that’s okay. Really, it is. In “The Art of Happiness” the Dalai Lama confided to his interviewer that he had a huge regret. He then shared a very sad story. The interviewer asked him if he ever got over it. The Dalai Lama was surprised. “Get over it? [...]
Grief comes to us in many forms. Yet, grief is a big mystery to most people. The way I understand grief to work is that a loss we experience now is rather like an earthquake; something shattering. Then, slowly over a period of days and weeks, a tsunami of grief often begins to arise. If [...]
This page is dedicated to all the Water Babies, the embryos, the fetuses, that were never brought into this life. This page is for the babies who were here, but for only a little while; long enough to love them completely and to leave a small, broken place where they lived. In Japan, Jizo is [...]
Ever get into a huff that things are not going your way? Are you hurt when you don’t feel understood, and then think that there is either a) something wrong with you or b) something wrong with the person who hurt or insulted you? We toss the term narcissistic around like a ball. We insult [...]
Almost everyone I know who meditates, quits. They get excited to start, but then they quickly become disappointed that enlightenment doesn’t look the way they expected. No, meditation doesn’t raise us to a state of Always Peaceful or Always Patient With Loved Ones. It doesn’t remove Self-Loathing or Resentment Toward Lots of People. […]
There is an underbelly to our most intimate relationships: the dark side of love. When people announce they are getting married, we might give our condolences along with our congratulations to offer a more holistic picture of the institution. Until then, let’s work out some of the awful kinks. […]
This could be a book. But right now I don’t have time to write it, and you might not have time to read it, so I’ll just send out postcards, aka blog posts, for now. I’ve been seeing families, couples and individuals for almost 25 years now, and I am sure of a few things, [...]
In the ongoing quest to mend our anxious minds, many of us are drawn to meditation. Once we begin, we find that we fidget, we get sleepy, we get bored. We don’t do it right, we fail, we quit, we start again only to quit again. Our expectations of finding peace are not met and [...]
