These steps are courtesy of K.W. Thomas’ work, Introduction to conflict management, which I am cutting and pasting rather than stealing. It was tempting, as they are nicely said. As I have written before, it’s hard to do collaborative conflict resolution. It’s hard to risk being wrong, being shown that you have made a mistake. From [...]
Sometimes there are surprises when I choose stillness. I opted out of Memorial Day traffic this morning and was on posting in my jizoandchibi Facebook sangha, when a box appeared from my friend Christina Parker, adding me to a group. I always opt out of groups immediately. Too distracting. This one, however, cried out for [...]
In compassionate meditation, I face my inner conflicts. In my relationships, those conflicts come to life when I feel threatened that I am at risk of losing something, being wrong, getting called out. Collaborative couples therapy is about teaching people to communicate by engaging without 1) attacking; 2) defending; or 3) withdrawing. This is not [...]
Here’s the Zen Joke. I wrote a great piece, which was not the piece I meant to write, and I SO enjoyed writing it… and then my computer went ka-blooey and a little Apple Pinwheel spun around and around and everything froze. I had to force-quit without saving the piece. So, all I have is [...]
For me, J.D. Salinger was a bit of a Zen Master. […]
There is something wonderful about old guitar strings. They have character. They hurt my fingers when I haven’t played in a while. They are edgy, at least for me. And it’s even more amazing when one breaks. POP! It is a great sound. […]
