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Make Jizo Your Valentine

Valentine’s Day. A day for heart-shaped boxes, long-stemmed roses, and cute quips contained within colorful Hallmark cards. Every February 14th, we flock to florists and chocolatiers like ducks to water in order to engage in what has become the almost ritualistic practice of honoring an individual (or individuals) we romantically admire. But what do really [...]

By |February 5th, 2016|Education, Holidays, News|0 Comments

Jizo and Trauma Recovery for Chibi

It is uncanny how many people I meet who had early childhood trauma.  It's not just patients in my office, it's people I meet in casual conversation. I mention Jizo & Chibi, and the moment I start telling them about Chibi — the inner child, the infant self — they open up and tell me how their mother became ill when they were 6 weeks old, how they were separated from mom due to jaundice or other health issues, how they were premature and lived life in an incubator and struggle with attaching to people. I am not saying everyone who had early separation is suffering as a result of it.  I don't think we are all living on a level playing field.  Some of us are more sensitive to life's challenges, more fragile.  [...]
By |October 28th, 2013|Inner Child, Psychology, Uncategorized|0 Comments

Broken Bones and Necessary Pain (aka The Busted Toe Diaries)

I learned another thing the hard way (is there really any other way?). When a broken bone is mending, there are times when it hurts, suddenly and badly, as part of the healing process. I was struck by the metaphor of how we cannot mend unless we face the painful things in our lives.  This idea feels too short for a blog and too long for a haiku, but that's all there is to it. [...]
By |February 1st, 2013|Therapy, Uncategorized|0 Comments

Jizo Therapy: Releasing Tension in Every Cell

We are a tense gang, us Americans.  Most of us are wound incredibly tight and we don't even know it.  We are driven, programmed from early on, to achieve success, happiness, and more success. When we don't achieve this Utopia that we have been encouraged to seek, we struggle.  We suffer.  We brace against disappointment.  We hurt, physically and emotionally.  Our inner world is one way and it often does not line up with the way we have been told our outer world should look.  We are conflicted, out of balance between our inner lives and our outer lives.  It's been called the Tyranny of the Shoulds.  We should go to college.  We should get married.  We should live a good life and look good while we do it. [...]
By |October 31st, 2012|All, Mindfulness, Uncategorized|0 Comments

Mother’s Day Contemplation: Attachment …and Then Detaching

This Sunday, we celebrated our first attachment figure:  Mom.  Like it or not, we internalized her since we were conceived.  I remember a New Yorker cartoon depicting a new mother holding her baby while talking with a friend.  The caption read, "I know the voice she hears in her head at my age will be mine." [...]
By |May 8th, 2011|All, Buddhism, Inner Child, Therapy|1 Comment
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