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Jizo and The Yoga Asana: Lean Into It

It took me five years of intensive yoga to get into Trikonasana, also known as triangle pose. My hips would not open up. My lower back screamed “No!!” And I had to listen to that no because I kept injuring myself when I didn’t. My vow is patience. Yoga, like wisdom, takes a long time. [...]

By | 2019-01-23T15:32:32+00:00 July 21st, 2013|Meditation, Uncategorized|0 Comments

The Worst Ego in the WORLD

Hello.  I am Valerie’s Ego and I am writing my first blog EVER. AREN’T YOU IMPRESSED? YES, WE JUST GOT BACK FROM YOGA AND I AM READY TO ROCK! Big breath. Let it pass. My mind is a yoga class in constant session. I hate the asana, I love the asana. I hate the teacher, [...]

By | 2019-01-23T15:32:34+00:00 July 10th, 2013|Meditation, Therapy, Uncategorized|0 Comments

Basho and His Words, Jizo & Seeking Peace

“Do not seek to follow in the footsteps of the men of old; seek what they sought.”  ~ Basho I have used beautiful quotes of Basho’s for a long time.  And while I loved his words, I did not know anything about the man, the poet.  It is in grounding myself in my Jizo-experience that [...]

By | 2019-01-23T15:32:37+00:00 June 27th, 2013|All, Uncategorized|0 Comments

Jizo and Alt + Shift + W: Distraction Free Mode

I learn something new every day.  Actually, maybe I learn too much every day and a lot of it is unnecessary.   Isn’t that the etiology of TMI (Too Much Information)? Today, as I was propped up on my writerly pillows, breeze coming gently through the windows, with my computer on my lap, I thought about [...]

By | 2019-01-23T15:32:38+00:00 June 22nd, 2013|Mindfulness, Uncategorized|0 Comments

Jizo Therapy and Collaborative Conflict Resolution

When it comes to communication and relationships, there is collaboration.  And then there is everything else.  The dictionary definition of collaboration is: 1)  to work jointly with others or together especially in an intellectual endeavor; 2) to cooperate with or willingly assist an enemy of one’s country and especially an occupying force. So, one definition [...]

By | 2019-01-23T15:32:39+00:00 June 13th, 2013|Therapy, Uncategorized|0 Comments

Glimpses of Peace Amidst Glimpses of Peace: A Meditation on Conflict Avoidance

Take a deep breath… and as you exhale… please pause. Notice where your shoulders are.  Take your shoulders down to where they fall naturally. Feel your breath enter and leave your body, feel your belly rise and fall. Notice your thoughts.  Listen to the ticker-tape chatter, the Monkey Mind, the galloping Idea Horse. Smile as [...]

By | 2019-01-23T15:32:39+00:00 June 4th, 2013|Meditation, Uncategorized|0 Comments

Steps to Peaceful, Collaborative Conflict Resolution

These steps are courtesy of K.W. Thomas’ work, Introduction to conflict management, which I am cutting and pasting rather than stealing.  It was tempting, as they are nicely said. As I have written before, it’s hard to do collaborative conflict resolution.  It’s hard to risk being wrong, being shown that you have made a mistake.  From [...]

By | 2019-01-23T15:32:40+00:00 May 28th, 2013|Therapy, Uncategorized|0 Comments

Helping the Animals of the Moore Tornado

Sometimes there are surprises when I choose stillness.  I opted out of Memorial Day traffic this morning and was on posting in my jizoandchibi Facebook sangha, when a box appeared from my friend Christina Parker, adding me to a group.  I always opt out of groups immediately.  Too distracting.  This one, however, cried out for [...]

By | 2019-01-23T15:32:41+00:00 May 24th, 2013|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Getting Grounded in High Conflict: Being Right by Being Wrong

In compassionate meditation, I face my inner conflicts.  In my relationships, those conflicts come to life when I feel threatened that I am at risk of losing something, being wrong, getting called out. Collaborative couples therapy is about teaching people to communicate by engaging without 1) attacking; 2) defending; or 3) withdrawing.  This is not [...]

By | 2019-01-23T15:32:42+00:00 May 24th, 2013|Therapy, Uncategorized|1 Comment