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Surrendering Narcissism? It Hurts So Bad

Ever get into a huff that things are not going your way? Are you hurt when you don't feel understood, and then think that there is either a) something wrong with you or b) something wrong with the person who hurt or insulted you? We toss the term narcissistic around like a ball. We insult people by calling them "raging narcissists" because, sometimes, when narcissism is pierced, people yell, scream, rant, toss out sarcasm or even calmly blame you for wronging them. Plenty of books appear on shelves and iPads about how to leave a narcissist. But I could not find a single one about how to love one or awaken to the notion that you ARE one, or at least just a little bit of one, yourself.  [...]
By |August 28th, 2014|Mindfulness, Psychology, Therapy, Uncategorized|0 Comments

Fiscal Fitness and the Holidays

Spend! Lots! Fast! I've got to find the perfect present!  Go!  Now! Black Friday!  Six fewer shopping days this year! Whoa! I want stuff for me too!  Want, need, desire, hanker, cling, have longing...  Suffer? There it is again — the season of spending shouting at us. So how do we go through the most commercial time of the year and stay financially sober? [...]
By |November 21st, 2013|Holidays, Psychology, Shopping, Uncategorized|0 Comments

Jizo and Trauma Recovery for Chibi

It is uncanny how many people I meet who had early childhood trauma.  It's not just patients in my office, it's people I meet in casual conversation. I mention Jizo & Chibi, and the moment I start telling them about Chibi — the inner child, the infant self — they open up and tell me how their mother became ill when they were 6 weeks old, how they were separated from mom due to jaundice or other health issues, how they were premature and lived life in an incubator and struggle with attaching to people. I am not saying everyone who had early separation is suffering as a result of it.  I don't think we are all living on a level playing field.  Some of us are more sensitive to life's challenges, more fragile.  [...]
By |October 28th, 2013|Inner Child, Psychology, Uncategorized|0 Comments

Finding Calm in a Noisy World

I don't like noise.  That is putting it mildly.  So is saying I'm sensitive to noise.  I've been this way my entire life. So I went looking for a solution. In my meditation, I am encouraged to welcome my anger toward noise, note it and breathe it out.  That hasn't helped.  I've tried it hundreds of times.  I am encouraged to accept the things I cannot change.  But when it comes to noise, that just seems impossible.  I have tried releasing the tension the noise brings on by focusing on places where I am not tense.  That hasn't been helpful here either. So, what do I do? [...]

Conversation with an Earthworm and JizoTherapy

Practicing meditation with Jizo has allowed me to listen to nature and practice lovingkindness with an earthworm

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